Before you start thinking I'm some egotistical guy, let me share with you the benefits of why I take the personal time.
- I'm a better person - I come back refreshed and ready to tackel being a husband, parent, son, etc
- Mutual benefit - I've come up with some of my best ideas for loving my wife and spending time with my family from just taking an hour or so of personal time
- My stress level's are way less - I can't tell you how much lower my stress is now that I focus on me time
- I'm leading by example - Your spouse might work their butt off and deal with the same guilty feelings of taking time off. By you leading, they'll want to do it as well. When I started taking personal nights once a week, my wife finally started doing the same and told me she saw huge benefits!!!
Here's a great example of what happened during this past winter. Our kids had been sick and when I woke up, I wanted to take them both out to breakfast and let Lindsey stay home. She opted to take Luci, our youngest who was still really sick, and stay at home for the morning. I preceded to take Bella to breakfast at Denny's where I got myself the Fit Slam. Oh yeah... 6 egg whites, tomatoes, and spinach baby!! Nothing better to start the day with in my opinion. But hey... I also think 2 tablespoons of crunchy peanut butter is desert. "What the hell kind of person are you Nathan???" Don't deny it, I know that's what you're thinking:)
Bella and I went out, got groceries, and even made a birthday party appearance for one of her classmates. By the time I got home, Lindsey needed some time so she left. Awesome!!! I watched the girls and started cleaning up the garage. Lindsey returned after only an hour but seemed to feel better. I spent the rest of the day playing with Bella and cleaning out the garage. By the late evening, I knew I had some thinking and planning to do so I asked if I could leave for an hour. It wasn't an easy ask and Lindsey needed me. So we agreed on a return time and I hoped on my bike and headed to the local Starbucks. I was so damn focused for that 45 min period. I planned some key events, brainstormed some special surprises for people and even locked down some time to study the Stock Market and review our Income and Expense plans. I came home refreshed and because of that, had a wonderful evening with my little princesses.
Take the time for yourself. It's about balance and there's and obvious connection between you and your surroundings. If you're pent up and anxious, everyone you interact with will feel it. It's like paying it forward but with negative things instead of positive.
Take care folks and until next time...